“The Gift of Being Yourself” is an exceptional investigation of the subject of self-identity. The author, David Benner, is able to masterfully bridge the Biblical paradox of death-to-self and self-discovery. He writes, “For if we find our true self we find God, and if we find God, we find our most authentic self.” We don’t find our true self by seeking self-identity but by seeking God. Benner sees our identity not as a creation but as a discovery and as …