It seems like more and more book titles these days offer 7 Steps to Success, 5 Secrets to Healthy Relationships or 10 Steps to Whatever. We humans thrive on certainty. We crave a numbered plan that doesn’t change and that, if followed, is sure to work. We also want control and if we can create a more controlled way to live that works, we want it. So, we read our 10 step books, grit our teeth, get our act together and get after …